Adolescence is the period of life during which the individual faces profound changes both the physical and psychological, that lead to balance of his personality and the recognition of its role as adult society in which it belongs. This stage of maturity can lead to difficulties, hardships and pains that often the young are confused or deliberately conceals within himself or communicate with great difficulty to those with whom daily comes into contact.
Adolescence is certainly a very difficult time to live. During this time the boy should be able to address a range of issues and responsibilities that would lead to a complete maturation, when you become an adult. Sometimes, however, is not able to overcome all these concerns and create grave difficulties that he is only rarely able to express so that it can be helped in some way. Often, then, in those times of trouble especially teen withdraws from family who finds himself unable to help him, and so the boy goes to seek help from friends who, most of the time do not interpret her strange behavior as a sign of unease.
The adolescent, in our years, is often seen as a person devoid of ideals, not too tied to the family and gives great importance to friendship. Being devoid of ideals, I believe, is due to the fact that kids think they have everything you need (except for a greater freedom), are given to losers at the start and sometimes do not learn to fight to get what they want, because were used by households as well. Probably all parents who spoil their children are those who during adolescence did not have what they wanted except with the struggles, and therefore know how hard "fight."
Young people do not have the input from anyone to oppose a society that does not like, but they learn to adapt. For this crisis is likely to come in front of the first problem they encounter. These stimuli did not even come from friends, who fled to find safety and understanding, and groped for escape from the problems which unfortunately persist. Adolescents are more equal to their friends so as not to have their disputes with anyone. I argue that this kind of behavior is wrong, because it helps quite a boy to form a character and therefore to grow. It is always easy to find confirmations until you are forced to go out from the family or small group of friends. Although the group is small, usually you are really down in the staff only a few people, sometimes only the so-called "best friend". It is an individual who is said almost everything about yourself and you trust him blindly. Generally is a guy who is known for some time, and must know you are listening, but above all respect. Having only one true friend shows that teenagers are afraid to act out what they really are for fear of being judged negatively by those from whom they want to be respected and for that we approve and you become what they really are not.
behavior Such is also implemented to their parents. if they have too many expectations from his son. He initially tries to satisfy them, perhaps repressing his true character and its real interests, then "breaks" in rejecting the family, considering it an unnecessary and only with its members by creating an adversarial relationship. The opposite is true if a parent takes care of the boy with care, but at the same time, leaving the necessary space and freedom of choice at least. If that does not happen, a young person would feel forced to do a thing and would do reluctantly. A parent must always be careful not to always give everything to his son, he must learn to not always have won in each field. Becoming mature means knowing how to lose, and often teenagers today do not know, because he has always been given everything.
In all these situations it is difficult to think that in the twisted mind of a teenager growing, you can easily create discomfort. I which are often underestimated in their severity and the ability to destroy those who should be the most carefree moments in the life of an individual.
These difficulties can arise in any situation and, in severe cases, lead to extreme gestures (suicide, self harm, anorexia, bulimia, etc.)..
Problems can be varied as
- Many are related to the affective sphere: friends of the opposite sex. It has often been too involved in stories that turns out not to be set, otherwise it turns out that the dearest of friends has betrayed us, going to tell to others what he had confided. Nothing could be more frequently could lead to major depression, which is difficult to escape without the help of someone who often reject for fear of another disappointment.
- More difficult to depend on the acceptance of their body. It should be noted that changes in an adolescent is mentally but also physically. Often the new person that is created does not reflect what we wanted to be or what friends, society and parents sometimes require us to become. Once it was perhaps a bigger problem than women, but today is also found in most of the boys are male.
- are therefore all the inconveniences caused by the fact that we depend so much opinion of others. It happens frequently do not feel comfortable with a dress (for example) that may not be fashionable or the prettiest girl in school never to wear. You feel observed by all and we often creates unnecessary complexity. Precisely for this lies his way of being and maybe even think to standardize the other, but the problems are increasing and becoming more and no longer able to deal rationally.
- Some concerns may be caused by poor school performance. If it does not reflect their expectations, or even those of a parent, then you feel defeated and it becomes very difficult to improve.
- Serious difficulties may be caused by the fact that among the parents there are strong conflicts. It happens to find himself living in a harsh environment, so we try to avoid it and you move away from the family more and more. Otherwise it happens that the child of two parents fight for what is the fault of the conflict and this is increasingly distressed and desperate. As a result of such facts, some students change greatly in character, becoming more extroverted in to search many friends an outlet for grief.
- finally I think that the inconvenience of adolescence may be related to the fact that young people tend to excessive approval to other people usually more charismatic and as you try to look like. This leads to the suffocation of his character, but sooner or later must emerge somehow. The problem is that the more you repress, the more it emerges as a problem, discomfort.
In conclusion it appears that the boys have no real ideals, because they are not stimulated. With the family have an adversarial relationship if it is oppressive, and if it is open to dialogue, relations are improving. Friends are seen as an important part of adolescence, because the group is included (though often only an impression), however it is really only trust very few people of which he is sure he can trust.
For a boy, is also easy to get into difficult situations from which it is then difficult to escape.
The causes of these moments are the most diverse and related to all aspects of life of the young.
Solving these hardships is very difficult, but you can try to avoid that come to plague our lives as teenagers. You should try to make do with what you have, not giving too much importance to the outward appearance, but by enhancing the positive elements of a character that can still exercise a certain charm on others. So we should not want to seem groped those who did not, for wanting to look like another. The best advice is to have greater confidence in their potential.
A tip for parents is to pay more attention to the attitudes of children, to try to catch all the messages, a person with problems, try to send to those around her. If you were to take up these posts, the problems should be tackled with ease, because this is missing the boys.
Adolescence is certainly a very difficult time to live. During this time the boy should be able to address a range of issues and responsibilities that would lead to a complete maturation, when you become an adult. Sometimes, however, is not able to overcome all these concerns and create grave difficulties that he is only rarely able to express so that it can be helped in some way. Often, then, in those times of trouble especially teen withdraws from family who finds himself unable to help him, and so the boy goes to seek help from friends who, most of the time do not interpret her strange behavior as a sign of unease.
The adolescent, in our years, is often seen as a person devoid of ideals, not too tied to the family and gives great importance to friendship. Being devoid of ideals, I believe, is due to the fact that kids think they have everything you need (except for a greater freedom), are given to losers at the start and sometimes do not learn to fight to get what they want, because were used by households as well. Probably all parents who spoil their children are those who during adolescence did not have what they wanted except with the struggles, and therefore know how hard "fight."
Young people do not have the input from anyone to oppose a society that does not like, but they learn to adapt. For this crisis is likely to come in front of the first problem they encounter. These stimuli did not even come from friends, who fled to find safety and understanding, and groped for escape from the problems which unfortunately persist. Adolescents are more equal to their friends so as not to have their disputes with anyone. I argue that this kind of behavior is wrong, because it helps quite a boy to form a character and therefore to grow. It is always easy to find confirmations until you are forced to go out from the family or small group of friends. Although the group is small, usually you are really down in the staff only a few people, sometimes only the so-called "best friend". It is an individual who is said almost everything about yourself and you trust him blindly. Generally is a guy who is known for some time, and must know you are listening, but above all respect. Having only one true friend shows that teenagers are afraid to act out what they really are for fear of being judged negatively by those from whom they want to be respected and for that we approve and you become what they really are not.
behavior Such is also implemented to their parents. if they have too many expectations from his son. He initially tries to satisfy them, perhaps repressing his true character and its real interests, then "breaks" in rejecting the family, considering it an unnecessary and only with its members by creating an adversarial relationship. The opposite is true if a parent takes care of the boy with care, but at the same time, leaving the necessary space and freedom of choice at least. If that does not happen, a young person would feel forced to do a thing and would do reluctantly. A parent must always be careful not to always give everything to his son, he must learn to not always have won in each field. Becoming mature means knowing how to lose, and often teenagers today do not know, because he has always been given everything.
In all these situations it is difficult to think that in the twisted mind of a teenager growing, you can easily create discomfort. I which are often underestimated in their severity and the ability to destroy those who should be the most carefree moments in the life of an individual.
These difficulties can arise in any situation and, in severe cases, lead to extreme gestures (suicide, self harm, anorexia, bulimia, etc.)..
Problems can be varied as
- Many are related to the affective sphere: friends of the opposite sex. It has often been too involved in stories that turns out not to be set, otherwise it turns out that the dearest of friends has betrayed us, going to tell to others what he had confided. Nothing could be more frequently could lead to major depression, which is difficult to escape without the help of someone who often reject for fear of another disappointment.
- More difficult to depend on the acceptance of their body. It should be noted that changes in an adolescent is mentally but also physically. Often the new person that is created does not reflect what we wanted to be or what friends, society and parents sometimes require us to become. Once it was perhaps a bigger problem than women, but today is also found in most of the boys are male.
- are therefore all the inconveniences caused by the fact that we depend so much opinion of others. It happens frequently do not feel comfortable with a dress (for example) that may not be fashionable or the prettiest girl in school never to wear. You feel observed by all and we often creates unnecessary complexity. Precisely for this lies his way of being and maybe even think to standardize the other, but the problems are increasing and becoming more and no longer able to deal rationally.
- Some concerns may be caused by poor school performance. If it does not reflect their expectations, or even those of a parent, then you feel defeated and it becomes very difficult to improve.
- Serious difficulties may be caused by the fact that among the parents there are strong conflicts. It happens to find himself living in a harsh environment, so we try to avoid it and you move away from the family more and more. Otherwise it happens that the child of two parents fight for what is the fault of the conflict and this is increasingly distressed and desperate. As a result of such facts, some students change greatly in character, becoming more extroverted in to search many friends an outlet for grief.
- finally I think that the inconvenience of adolescence may be related to the fact that young people tend to excessive approval to other people usually more charismatic and as you try to look like. This leads to the suffocation of his character, but sooner or later must emerge somehow. The problem is that the more you repress, the more it emerges as a problem, discomfort.
In conclusion it appears that the boys have no real ideals, because they are not stimulated. With the family have an adversarial relationship if it is oppressive, and if it is open to dialogue, relations are improving. Friends are seen as an important part of adolescence, because the group is included (though often only an impression), however it is really only trust very few people of which he is sure he can trust.
For a boy, is also easy to get into difficult situations from which it is then difficult to escape.
The causes of these moments are the most diverse and related to all aspects of life of the young.
Solving these hardships is very difficult, but you can try to avoid that come to plague our lives as teenagers. You should try to make do with what you have, not giving too much importance to the outward appearance, but by enhancing the positive elements of a character that can still exercise a certain charm on others. So we should not want to seem groped those who did not, for wanting to look like another. The best advice is to have greater confidence in their potential.
A tip for parents is to pay more attention to the attitudes of children, to try to catch all the messages, a person with problems, try to send to those around her. If you were to take up these posts, the problems should be tackled with ease, because this is missing the boys.
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